There is no doubt about the pleasure of going somewhere to get indulged with good food.
But it can cost a lot of money and it’s very easy to over do it.
So I hear you saying… “But it makes me happy” or “That’s money well spend”.
Sure. Both of us shared these thoughts in an earlier stage of our lives but after the decision of becoming financially independent became our first priority we had to revisit this thought.
What we figured out is that you don’t have to say no to eating out or enjoying great food. It’s all about finding balance.
Sometimes we would go out or order take-away food just for pure laziness. Other times we would go out and spend lots of money in over priced food and drinks in an experience that provided nothing but a little massage in our egos.
The perfect and simple example of that is going to a steakhouse – you can order a T-Bone for £90 and a bottle of wine for £45. If you bought the same steak in a butchers and the wine in a wine shop and had a nice romantic evening at home it would cost you £45 all in.
“Ah but you’re missing the point of eating out and enjoying the cool environment which you can’t have at home”
Well, I’m not sure we’re missing out on anything really. I’m not saying it isn’t nice to go out and see people and enjoy a different food and experience every now and again. But this can become such a normal thing to do that it ends up by losing all its appeal.
Yeah sure, we need to socialize and see our friends now and again. But that doesn’t mean we need to do what everyone does. It’s not because they some people fancy the most expensive bottle of wine or steak in the menu that you need to follow their choices. There is no shame on asking for the cheaper option or to suggest a less expensive place to meet.
I guess the point in this post is that a large part of becoming financial independent is understanding how to use your money wisely. Its cutting down the things that are superfluously making you happy and finding other ways to provide yourself with fulfilment.
The most valuable thing we have is knowledge – so why not learn how to cook a new cuisine? Brew your own beer or become a wine bargain hunter?
Invest your time and money in learning things that can provide you long term fulfilment. There is so much information out there, you just have to dive in and allow yourself to become a better person instead of doing what everyone else is.
Save yourself and your money from the fear of missing out.